Teenage Thoughts 101: Being Me

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Teenagers, like me, often find it challenging to be themselves. Even I find it hard at times. I’m sure even adults find it hard as well. Admit it!

Being yourself is about allowing yourself to be the real you, and not being ashamed about it. I know, its easy to say, but not easy to do. However, once you do, you would never want to be another person other than yourself.

You may ask how? I found it hard to do it at first as well, but it starts off by stopping yourself to fixate on the past, and what you regret, you have to understand that there is nothing that you can do about it to fix it. You need to be honest and open about yourself. Instead of just looking at your flaws and your imperfections, look at your qualities.

Now, how do you know…

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A Teenager’s Perspective on Teenage Suicide: Is it worth it? By FL(Teen Writer)

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Yes, the teenage phrase in everyone’s life is a very high hurdle, and for some, they believe that committing suicide would be the easy way out. However, for me, I think that for every challenge, there is always a reward to come. I have many troubles myself, from friendship troubles, to my studies, but I never thought about committing suicide.

Q: Whenever you come across a problem, what do you do to make yourself feel better?

A: Instead of focusing on the one bad thing, I like to look at the dozens of other good things that I have in my life, like my family, and what I have achieved. Sometimes, it is important to look at the big picture, and not just focus on the one bad thing. To make myself feel better, I often like to do things that make me escape from what’s going on in the…

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肉眼看不清:專注力失調資優生脱药事件簿(一)

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MM每周禮拜二放學後來輔導室與我懇談半小時。見他累得拖看身軀步進輔導室,不消兩秒便倒在沙發上。

輔導員:「暑假過了,剛開學的心情如何?」
MM:「很累。」
輔導員:「你似睡眠不足?」
MM:「我盡量夜晚早點上床。但整天都很累,放學我想馬上囬家睡覺。」
輔導員:「很佩服你那麽疲累仍照常到來上資優課和約見我。」
MM「唔。」
輔導員:「兩個多月暑假,其間除了你到美國参與資優生的電腦工程的三個星期夏令課,其餘日子你都留在家中不停上網,對不對?你對我提過習慣早上五時左右才睡覺,下午才你起床。現在慣不慣早睡?要不,那有精力早起上學!你何時上床就寝呢?」
MM:「我十二時半睡覺。」
輔導員:「奇怪,暑假前,你放學來見我也不見得如此疲累?今天上課時,你夠精力應付嗎?」
MM:「和以前比較差不遠。上課沒有問題,照老師指示做便可以,根本無什麽需要留心學習。」
輔導員:「夏令營後你曾經很雀躣,覺得課堂沉悶便打開蘋果手提電腦學寫程式。現在你還有這個想法嗎嗎?」
MM:「我不知道。」
輔導員:「開學了,你有没有定時食药?」
MM:「由美國返來後已停了。」
輔導員:「比較之前食药和現在脱药,你有何感覺?」
MM:「沒什麽?」
輔導員:「讓我問媽媽近期對你有何觀察?你想我給媽媽打個電話嗎?」MM鬆鬆肩。
MM:「OK。」
輔導員便撥電話:「M太,我正與MM談及ADHD脱药問題。就你觀察,可有覺得MM之前食药和現在脱药行為上有什麽不同?」

待續……

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亞斯伯格一手知識:大學畢業的淚途 作者KC

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其實,

他們有獨立生活的常識,他們亦渴望交朋友。

他們能有真知卓見,甚至詞彙豐富,

他們的數理與分析力可能超越常人。

奇怪是,

他們缺課並非因為跟不上,他們考試與功課不及格,

並非因為自暴自棄,或有意荒廢學業,

他們更不是力有不逮。

不過,

捱不到大學三年級,問題就浮現了

原來學問、智力、生活常識、溝通意願是一回事

判斷力和思想組織力卻是另一回事。

原來,

他們常常錯過適當的時候做適當的事,

例如交朋結友、交功課、應付大小考試的時機,

一而再錯過了時機。

小問題,結果累積成大問題。

應付不來,

惟有躲藏。

他們需要的

不單純是校方有關考試/功課的特別安排,

亦不是學業上的技術支援,

將他們的問題核心聚焦於疏導情緒,

由心理師或社會工作者的輔導與開解,

結果只是治標而非治本。

標纖他們是嬌生慣養的一群,並不準確。

認定他們能力有點點缺憾,也不真實。

他們是一群某程度上同時被ASD 、ADHD、焦慮症纒繞的學生。

眼巴巴讓他們淪為現存教育制度下的犧牲者,多容易,

也多不幸。

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